Authentic: from Old French autentique (13c., Modern French authentique) “authentic; canonical,” and directly from Medieval Latin authenticus, from Greek authentikos “original, genuine, principal,” from authentes “one acting on one’s own authority,” from autos “self” (see auto-) + hentes “doer, being,” from PIE *sene- “to accomplish, achieve.” Sense of “entitled to acceptance as factual” is first recorded mid-14c
The first step to bettering ourselves is knowing ourselves. When we live in a more authentic state we realise a lot about our natural humanity. What conflicts and what protects; stripped away will show us what needs acceptance and what needs healing. I don’t know much about how to better yourself. But I’m on a journey of bettering myself and this word is has become my beginning. I came to realise that I have pretended a lot of my life to people; to impress, to protect myself and family. Because the truth is often much messier and too often society and individuals reject those who are too honest as if we do not have failings.
But is this not humanity? No one has perfect lives and the truth can be ugly and destructive but living honestly can help dispel the barriers in society and our own lives and break the images that entrap most of us in a sad pretence. To find real happiness.
To be honest and genuine with yourself takes a lot of heart and soul searching. But to then learn to do so with others who you are not close with takes courage and strength but invariably leads to growth.
This doesn’t mean to be rude. To me it’s more to find people who you connect with and allow yourself to be vulnerable more of the time. People who will help embrace and find beauty in everything that you are. From this point we grow strength to overcome what we personally don’t like or feel we need to change (not what our spouse or religion or society says) and thus grow to realise what and who we need in our lives.
I guess I like authenticity because it presents people as whole human beings. We are not just fragments of images put together but unique and complete person. Imagine if we saw on people’s ‘About’ page their failures and insecurities as well as their achievements. If they posted their bad and mediocre days as well as the highlights. We would being to understand that we are not so different and that it’s okay to feel and be certain things ourselves.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
We are all scared of baring our souls and being rejected or hurt. But I have found that it is important to be a trend setter for change if we want to start anything-even to provoke a thought. Start with the Man in the Mirror and dare to be different. It’s easier said than done but I am doing it so you can too.
I have been called too deep, antisocial and depressing for wanting to strike up a conversation that matters. I get weird looks and people have actually recorded me when I am having an eccentric moment or have a crazy idea that I want to follow through. Another time in my life, it would have really bothered me. Once I really cared what people thought of me. But my acceptance of my true authentic self has helped me to disregard what is normal and be happy in what fufils me.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
If we truly were willing to be vulnerable we would force others to examine their own vulnerabilities and maybe even reveal a bit more of who they truly are. We have a lot to learn from each other and this is the starting point. I think it could change the world.
This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.